Happiness is …
10 March 2010 4 Comments
Mars stationing direct after a long retrograde (since last December) seems to be easing the energy constipation I have been experiencing around me in the past months; not to mention the number of men that seem to have been incapacitated in one way or another — I have lost male colleagues temporarily to illness, broken bones, sprained backs, and other leaves of absence!
Even the mood in my therapy group was much lighter this week compared with the intense self-scrutiny of the past weeks (you might say that that’s what a therapy group is for — yes, but the easing of tension today was quite noticeable). We talked about the things that made us happy, which we almost never do, les misérables that we usually are!
Everyone was asked to make a list of the things that made them happy. Much of what was shared was the usual — walks in the country, quality time with loved ones, listening to music, taking care of oneself, and so on. Someone shared that happiness wasn’t a ‘high’ necessarily, but a state of relaxation.
Triple Gemini that I am, I had to go with ‘all the above’, and I found my own answers coming out of my mouth without really having to think that hard about it. Happiness, for me, is experienced at different moments in different contexts. I can be very happy listening to the birds chirp in the morning, but on days when I’ve worked through the night and want to catch up on sleep, I find myself curbing the urge to hurl a pillow at them and yell, ‘Just shut up already!‘. Sometimes I can be happily miserable (or miserably happy?) when working hard on a project I really believe in and want to see succeed. At times, I’m happy to be alone, at other times, quite happy and grateful for the company of good friends.
Happiness, I found myself saying, isn’t found in ‘things’ or ‘events’ or even in ‘ourselves’. Happiness is … being in harmony with my environment.
Sometimes, I can really surprise myself.
Happy Mars direct, everyone.